About Irene Fehr, Sex & Intimacy Coach
Certified Coach. Sex & Intimacy Expert.
Somatic Experiencing®Practitioner.
Founder of the Institute for Love & Intimacy.
Founder of the Connection Sex™ Framework.
Writer. Speaker. Highly Sensitive Person. Intimacy Warrior.
Couples come to me to heal the heartbreak of falling into roommate status and bring magic back into their relationship, under the sheets and beyond.
Single women come to me to break out of patterns of disconnecting from their bodies and desire, and reclaim their sexuality to prepare to attract a partner who will meet them sexually.
As a Sex & Intimacy Coach and a Somatic Experiencing® Practititioner specializing in women’s libido and sexual desire in a long-term relationship, I’ve helped hundreds of couples and single women to find sexual aliveness, satisfaction and connection. I’ve fought alongside courageous clients as they dared to choose intimacy over obligation, and fulfillment over compromise.
As an American based in Europe, I serve English-speaking clients in the US, Canada, Europe, UK, Israel, Middle East and Australia via Zoom.
You can read many of my articles on sex in long-term relationships, female libido and sexual pleasure in the Huffington Post, ScaryMommy, Refinery29, and Thought Catalog as well as in mainstream publications such as Cosmopolitan, Elite Daily and Bustle where I am regularly featured as a guest sex expert.
You can also hear my story and approach on the many podcasts including Sexy Marriage Radio, The Generous Marriage Podcast, Legendary Marriage Podcast, and The Meaningful Life Podcast.
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Why I Do This Work
I’ve lived through a fair share of challenging relationships and intimacy experiences — from my experience of losing my libido and ending up in a sexless marriage — that have led me to become an “intimacy warrior” for other couples. I’ve created a powerful step-by-step process to help couples make sex in their long-term relationship not only successful and sustainable — but also inevitable.
I know that when couples feel empowered to create a fulfilling sex life with their love partner, they empower the next many generations to do that same — and that spills over into a more open, fulfilled and nourished world.
As a sex and intimacy coach, I am committed to walking alongside you on your own personal journey and fighting alongside you for your rightful pleasure, joy and love in your sex life.
Learn more about what is sex coaching in this extensive FAQ.
Training & Background
With more than 4,000 coaching hours of experience, I am a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) from the prestigious Coaches Training Institute in San Rafael, CA and a Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner, certified by the Somatic Experiencing® International.
To effectively help my clients remove blocks, rewire their system to feeling sexual desire and create new intimacy patterns that form the foundation to a thriving sex life, I blend together a variety of coaching modalities and extensive study of sexuality, sexual practices rooted in Tantra, mindfulness, positive psychology, neuroscience, shadow work, body awareness, Enneagram, movement therapy, guided visualizations, and intuitive work. Learn more about sex coaching and how it differs from sex therapy.
My couples work is deeply rooted in the evidence-based principles brought forth by Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Gottman Method Couples Therapy to help clients break patterns of disconnection to deepen intimacy. I also integrate basic Internal Family Systems (IFS) principles to help clients break destructive behavioral patterns access their needs and desires that lie below the surface.
Before becoming a sex and intimacy coach, I was a corporate marketing maven, with experience in some of the world's largest companies in Silicon Valley and on Wall Street. As a graduate of Barnard College, Columbia University and Stanford University with a BA and MA in Philosophy, I can proudly say that I've been a life-long student of what it means to lead a good life.
Recent Trainings
Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO) with the Toni Herbine-Blank, MS, RN, Cs-P and John Palmer, LCSW, Senior IFS Trainers, via IFS Institute, 2024
Integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) Across Clinical Applications with Richard Schwartz PhD and Frank Anderson MD, online training via IFS Institute, 2023
Transcending Trauma Using IFS with Frank Anderson, MD, Instituto Cuatro Ciclos, 2023
Certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner with Somatic Experiencing® Training Institute (SETI), 2018-2023.
Neurobiology of Love and Human Relationships with Dr. Stephen W. Porges and Dr. Sue Carter Porges, Instituto Cuatro Ciclos, 2022
Fundamentals I module in the EQUUSOMA® approach to horse-human trauma recovery, 2022
Expanding the Self with EFIT & SE™ with Sue Johnson, Ph.D. and Peter A Levine, Ph.D., 2021
The Pelvis: Structure, Power, Posture, Trauma and Relational Healing with Dave Berger, LMFT, PT, LCMHC, SEP, MA, December 2020
Healing Sexual Trauma: A Somatic and Attachment Approach to Working with Therapy Clients with Diane Poole Heller and Peter Levine, PhD, 2019
Advanced Strategies for Working with Sexual Trauma and Sexuality with Ariel Giarretto, MS, LMFT, SEP, 2018
Level 1 Clinical Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy with Drs John & Julie Gottman, Ph.D., July 2017 and Level 2 in 2019
Introduction to Crucible® Neurobiological Therapy with Dr. David Schnarch, July 2017
How to Work with Me
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