Sex & Intimacy Coaching for Women


 

Sex that feels amazing, because it works for your body

Feeling confident to ask for what you really want — and in a way that your partner wants to give it to you

Sharing your feelings, needs, desires, and truth freely and never feeling like you’re too much in a relationship again

Freely playing, connecting and acting without guilt, doubt, tension, and anxiety

Meeting a caring and respectful partner who will want to explore, experience and share in the excitement of your sexual pleasure with you.

Enjoying every moment of your life

This is the life I want for you. This is the life that you deserve. This is the life that is waiting for you …

Now I know that you’re probably here because sex has not been so easy for you. Maybe you’ve dreamt of sex as a beautiful, pleasurable experience and it has not been this way. Maybe sex has been an area of frustration and even pain. So I am going to ask you some questions …

What if your so-called “sexual problems” or inhibitions of the past were simply a way you're being called to unlock your deepest satisfaction and passion?

What if low libido and loss of that sexy feeling after you’ve taken care of everything and everyone is your soul's cry for more energy, aliveness and spaciousness in your life so you can feel more?

What if painful sex and discomfort are your body’s way of telling you that the sex you've been having is not working and you want a gentler, slower and more connected way to make love?

I get it. You’ve probably felt disappointed and sad that your body was not there for you when you wanted it. You are used to seeing yourself as broken and “less than” other women. And it's hard in this place to imagine that what you're experiencing is anything other than a problem to be fixed.

 
 

to stay strong and figure this out on your own ...

Maybe you've talked to experts in the field – gynecologists, therapists – who told you there's nothing wrong with you, and that it's normal not to feel as much pleasure in sex as men. Maybe you've been told that it's ok to not feel sexual after menopause. But you know that something is really off with this advice.

Maybe you've devoured all self-help books, audios and group programs you could get your hands on, and found some inspiration — but little actual change in your life.

Maybe you've done nothing at all but wished and prayed that your sex life could change.

If you're a single woman in your 30-50s and you: 

• Want to participate in the pleasure and aliveness of sex

• Crave feeling that sexy feeling in your body and being excited for love-making

Yearn to feel close and be intimate with a partner and want to attract one who will meet and appreciate you sexually …

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Hello, I am Irene Fehr, sex coach for women and couples. And I am here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with you. And there is no better person to tell you this than me, because I’ve been in your shoes before.

Before I became a sex coach, I was in a sexless marriage, and I looked for a sex coach to help me fix my "sexual problems:" not being able to orgasm, painful sex, and a general lack of that sexual feeling.

My personal story is a common one. At age 25, I met the man who became my husband. It was love at first sight, and we couldn't keep our hands off each other. Once we settled into our relationship, I started noticing changes in our sex life.

Where sex used to be fun and exciting, it became repetitive and disconnected — and I became aware of that empty, eventually resentful, feeling when he orgasmed but I didn't. I yearned to ask for more, wished and prayed inside that he would touch me differently, but fear took over, and I stayed silent. 

My body started changing too. First, I lost my lubrication. The gynecologist suggested using lube, so we continued having sex, without my awareness that I wasn't turned on. Then intercourse turned painful. We barely talked about it, just in passing as I went in and out of doctors' appointments trying to figure out “what was wrong" with me. Eventually, I "lost my libido" and any desire to be touched or touch. And I couldn't get it back.

I blamed myself for not being feminine enough. I felt broken for not being orgasmic. And I felt numb — to sex but also to passion for my own life.

At 30 years of age, I wondered...

Is that it for me in terms of sex? Why don't I want sex like other women?
Am I not meant to enjoy sex?

Eventually, my husband and I divorced. Without the emotional tools I have today and the understanding the sex naturally dies in a long-term relationship (and why it’s a good thing), we couldn't find connection to stay together.

But before I knew that and had support … I was devastated and found myself sliding into depression for several years. I tried dating (I really wanted a relationship) and found myself either shutting down in anxiety or in tears when it came to anything sexual. I avoided any sexual touch or connection, even eye contact, as I feared that I'd initiate something sexual that I didn't want. To numb out the loneliness and pain, I focused on work and outside activities (and a lot of shopping!).

But I finally heard the wake up call. My loss of libido and sexual struggles set me on a path to discover what intimacy and sexuality really meant for me.

Knowing deep down that there has to be a better way of living, I walked into a sex coach's office to tell her that I wanted a different way to do sex — free of anxiety, shutdown and tears.  

Working with a sex coach was life-changing! I delved into intense self-discovery work. I voraciously studied various sexuality practices and learned to awaken my body to pleasure (yes, our bodies do go numb) and tap into pleasure I only dreamt of.

I learned that instead of having a low libido in the pathological sense, I had never had a connection to my body, which stopped me from asking from what I really wanted and feeling free to express myself with joy and openness as I was born to express. 

Quickly, I saw my body shift and come alive. Desire flowed — without the guilt or shame. My body relaxed and got turned on — like a flower bud slowly opening up. I started to radiate sexual energy — and I learned how to ask for what I wanted and what I didn’t, making my sexual experiences pleasurable and free of shame.

I set the intention to live my life by these three tenets: desire, pleasure & truth, which I saw were the key to my awakening. And this is what I teach to women today.


 
 
 

I know this because I have gone through my own journey and saw myself what’s on the other side. And I invite you to join me on this journey to

  • Open to deeper and more satisfying emotional and sexual intimacy

  • Embrace sexual pleasure and find your flame within

  • Become a confident lover for your pleasure, so you never have to wonder if you’re good enough

 

I currently have coaching spots available starting November 2019. Get on the waiting list for a free 30-minute phone consultation and I’ll be in touch when spots open up.


Sex Coaching for Women

Sex coaching combines the power of coaching and creating change with the deep understanding of sexual and sex dynamics. What is sex coaching?

I believe sexual challenges such as painful sex, lack of sexual desire, or unease about sex are about health and growth rather than pathology, an opportunity to step into the next stage of connection with ourselves and our partners, current or future, by getting the education you need — education about your body and what works for you.

Which is why I offer a “sexual growth program” to help you feel more at ease about sex and pleasure than you’ve ever thought possible. Every coaching journey is tailored to your needs and desires, and it generally covers these areas:

 

ACCESS YOUR DESIRE

  • Uncover what you deeply want for yourself: the touch, affection, and communication that turn you on

  • Remove roadblocks of guilt, shame or self-doubt that stand in the way of you having what you want

  • Connect to your body's wisdom and sexual energy through somatic (body-based) practices

CULTIVATE PLEASURE

  • Learn what feels good to you and how to receive pleasure (and get out of your head while making love)

  • Work through fears, guilt and shame that are holding you back from surrendering deeply into pleasure and orgasm

  • Relax into your body and your sensuality

  • Nourish your body and soul to bring out your natural radiance and shine

SPEAK YOUR TRUTH

  • Get comfortable speaking your truth in a way that your partner will listen

  • Release resentments and hurts from the past to connect to your partner or magnetize partners that you deeply desire

  • Surrender deeply into relationship without losing yourself and compromising your integrity

  • Learn the power of authentic communication and desire to turn each other on

 

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I currently have coaching spots available starting November 2019. Get on the waiting list for a free 30-minute phone consultation and I’ll be in touch when spots open up.

 

Are You a Woman in Relationship?

If you're a woman in relationship, couples work includes working on deepening connection and intimacy, so that you and your partner can feel closer to each other and explore sexual pleasure together. Even as I only work with coupled women as part of a couple, I offer a combination approach of individual and couples sessions.

Learn why sex and passion die in a long-term relationship (and why it’s a good thing) and how you can regain that passion and connection instead.


What Clients Have to Say

"I feel I am more of a co-creator in my life. I feel lovable, worthy, grateful, excited and engaged in my life."

Maya, 32

"My ignition is in my control. I feel fully alive and vital and sexy. I’m more awake and alive ... and I feel powerful and magnetic."

Suzan, 43

"I feel a healthy rebellion in my life ... like nothing is actually broken. This is a welcome thought and a new one. I believe it's a strong sign of my healing."

Fay, 40


I have realized some inner truths, like I am tired of trying to control everything, and the messy side of my personality is dying to come out!

I reached out to Irene after struggling on my own for years, but wanting to make a change before my wedding. My fiancé and I went through some challenging times, and I was feeling stuck and unable to move past old hurts. For years I had been slowly building up walls, and separating myself both emotionally and physically, even though I wanted nothing but closeness and intimacy deep down. Irene made me feel at ease right away: she has a way of guiding you to answers you didn't know you had inside you. After only a couple of months of working together, I am now able to reach for my partner when I need him. I have shed the fear of not being good enough for my partner. I have realized some inner truths, like I am tired of trying to control everything, and the messy side of my personality is dying to come out! I have transformed from rigid to soft, from closed off to open, and from insecure in my relationship to more confident and connected than ever. Irene has provided the safe space I needed to process, and move forward. I can't wait to see what the coming months hold for our work together! 

Sarah, 33 • Engaged • Marketing Director • Denver, CO


I feel fully alive, vital and sexy. My relationship with my husband is hotter … sexier … exciting. 

I see myself completely differently. My love for myself (and realization that I matter) has grown tremendously. I don’t feel numb anymore. I don’t hold back as much. I feel fully alive and vital and sexy. I feel powerful and magnetic. What I am most proud of is my openness to talk with my husband about things I was afraid to ask for before. My relationship is hotter, more fun, sexier, exciting. Coaching with Irene has been fun, and the most valuable coaching I’ve ever gotten.

Suzan Acker, 44 • Relationship Coach • Ottawa, Canada


Irene helped me find and connect, mind and body, to the woman I knew was inside.

I had spent years in my head and totally disconnected from my body. I felt flat. I knew I wanted to feel differently but I wasn't sure what to do about it. Irene helped me to zero in on how I wanted to feel within my body, then name and claim those desires. I laughed, cried, cussed, and got turned on! Working with Irene was nothing short of transformational. Don't let her sweet voice fool you though, she's tough ... and you'll love her for it! 

Stephanie, 40 • Artist & Mother of 2 • Nebraska


 

I currently have coaching spots available starting November 2019. Get on the waiting list for a free 30-minute phone consultation and I’ll be in touch when spots open up.